People are scared to break up because of the validation that comes with being in a relationship, especially for women . They are taught that being with a man is the best thing ever. They feel validated because someone loves us, and they are scared about not being loved again.
They cling onto these things, even if they are toxic feelings because they think they give them self-esteem, but actually they are bringing them down. I think its a lack of affection and verbal recognition you might show you love someone, but saying it is also important — can affect our confidence.
If you’re in a relationship with someone for three years and they can’t say ‘I love you’, what does that do for your self-esteem? We’re so scared about what happens when we break up and what that says about us as a person.
But that doesn’t mean if the going gets tough you should throw in the towel. “Fighting is healthy, but it also scares people, You have to create a safe space where you can have a disagreement.
What are the five key signs your relationship needs to end.
1. A lack of commitment to working things out.
Sometimes there is an obvious solution to a problem, but one or both people just can’t be bothered to put the effort in. If things aren’t going great, you either need to change them, or break up.
2. Constant fighting with no resolution
Fighting is healthy, but if you’re continually fighting about the same thing and you’re not getting anywhere, it’s time to reassess things.
3. Withdrawing from the relationship.
Have you or your partner checked out, either emotionally or physically? Often people say ‘I want to break up’ or they realise it’s not working but they just stay in the relationship anyway.”
4. A lack of affection.
It’s when you get to the point when you’re just friends and you can’t kiss or hug. Well then be their friend, don’t be in a relationship.”
5. You’ve stopped having sex
I don’t think we should be valuing our relationships based on how much sex we have, but if you’re not having sex then the passion has gone out of the relationship. I’ve put that last because usually if these other things are happening, you’re not going to want to have sex with that person. They usually go hand in hand.